Tuesday, August 16, 2022

AN INHERITANCE OF TRAUMA

 Reflections on India’s Independence 

Today one hears little about the national traumas experienced by India and Pakistan at the time they gained independence 75 years ago—a vast wounding of the psyche now buried deep within us. Few who experienced that historical event are alive today, and yet the stories and images will live on.

There is a feeling of awe and pride when I recall that my dad was present among the throng of revelers that greeted the first dawn of freedom. He was there when the crowd hushed to hear the words of India’s first prime minister spoken from the ramparts of Delhi’s Red Fort. Dad was 22 and I imagine his heart must have swelled with hope for the future.

Then came the communal unrest and violence. One thousand miles away in the city of Calcutta, my dad’s aunt, Hema Lata, or Bara Ma as she was affectionately called, showed up at the train station with a group of volunteers everyday to meet trains arriving from Pakistan to assist the wounded and displaced passengers. Many among them who were dead. Riots raged in that city for five days. There were 2000 casualties and thousands more injured in Calcutta alone.

One of dad’s uncles decided to remain in Lahore with his family and remained permanently separated from the larger family because of political tensions and travel restrictions between the new countries.

A New York Times photo article revived these mixed feelings that I will forever associate with India’s had earned independence.

Wednesday, August 10, 2022

NOW THIS

I remember that first time I noticed the creases around my mouth. I must have been in my late twenties or thirties. Bewildered I stared into the mirror. They seemed to have sprung overnight. I smiled. I relaxed my face. I smiled more widely then relaxed my face again. They didn’t go away. Where had they come from? 

Now I know they’re signs of aging and are called laugh lines or nasolabial folds.

Fast forward a decade plus years to the day my stomach feels unnaturally swollen. I am convinced I have a tumor. Alarmed, I cautiously manipulate my abdomen and determine to consult the family physicians about it. 

No reason to panic I am assured. It was only middle-age spread. Embarrassed, I bought myself a hula hoop that very day promising myself that I would rather die than allow myself to thicken at the waist.

Recently while playing the Spelling Bee game, I was annoyed that the common word KINE was not on the list, but DINK was. I didn’t even know DINK was a word. I had been typing in all sorts of letter combinations, as I sometimes do, to uncover words I might otherwise miss. 
Nonplussed, I turn to my husband whose vocabulary is greater than mine, “What does DINK mean?”
“Never heard the word. I’ll look it up.”
I wait.
He laughs scandalously, “Turns out we know quite a few ‘dinks.’ Some even in our family.”
Before emailing the game authorities to point out they’ve missed a word again, I look up the word KINE.
Guess what?
KINE - noun, ARCHAIC.